BDSM黑话

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BDSM亚文化随着多年发展，衍生出了数目繁多的术语和黑话，在丰富了文化的同时，也增加了萌新入圈的难度。本页面专门用来收集BDSM相关的黑话以及术语，尤其是某些不便于单独创建页面的词语，不限次元。

另请注意，如果整个条目都被黑幕覆盖说明该条目较为重口，不被大多数人接受，可能会引起情绪不安、身体不适甚至精神损害，请自行决定是否刮开。

数字黑话

• 24/7：一种调教方式，甚至是一种生活风格，指全天24小时、每周7天维持主奴状态
• 24/6：主要在美国使用，意思是一周七天除了去教堂的日子，其余时间都时刻准备进行性行为
• 2*4：两位男性对一位女性进行的四种常见性行为（阴道，肛门，口腔，乳房）
• 39：意为舔肛，来自象形。类似的还有“三又零分之零”。对应的英文单词为anilingus（较正式），rim（口语说法）和lick（所有的舔）
• 4-11-4：指大阴茎。因为美国有说法“the .44 Magnum as the most powerful handgun in the world”，而44=4英寸的周长*11英寸的长度

英文黑话

A-Z

• A is for Aftercare

Aftercare is the practice of checking in with one another after a scene (or “play session,” a.k.a., the time in which the BDSM happens) to make sure all parties feel nice and chill about what just went down. The dominant partner may bring the submissive ice for any bruises, but it’s important to know that aftercare involves emotional care as well as physical. BDSM releases endorphins, which can lead to both dominants and submissives experiencing a “drop”. Aftercare can help prevent that. There’s often cuddling and always conversation; kinksters need love too.

A意为事后照顾

是指在模拟场景（又名BDSM行为实行的时间）过后对另一方进行检查以确保所有身体部位良好，并对刚刚发生的事情感到不寒而栗。支配方会用冰块处理服从方身上的淤青。由于BDSM会释放内啡肽，可能会同时导致支配方和服从方感到‘情绪失落’，良好的事后照顾有助于减轻这种情绪。拥抱和交谈是常用手段，毕竟就算性癖奇怪也是需要爱的。

• B is for Bondage

Bondage is the act of tying one another up. In most cases the dominant partner is restraining the submissive using ropes, handcuffs, Velcro, specialty hooks, clasps, or simply a belt if you’re on a budget.

B意为捆绑

捆绑是指将另一方绑在一起。大多数情况下，支配方会使用绳索、手铐、魔术搭扣、特质铁钩、腕扣等。如果预算有限，也可以使用皮带。

• C is for Cuckold

We can’t let the alt-right ruin the term “cuck” for us. Traditionally, a cuck is a man who enjoys, often for submissive and erotic humiliation reasons, watching another man have sex with his wife. In a cuckolding scene, the other man invited to have sex with the wife is a “bull.” Female cucks are referred to as “cuck queens,” but people of all genders can be cucks.

• D is for D/S

D/S refers to dominance and submission, the crux of a BDSM relationship. While kinky people can be on a spectrum (see: “Switch”), typically you’re either dominant or submissive. If you take away one fact from this guide, it should be that even though the dominant partner in D/S relationship may be slapping, name-calling, and spitting on the submissive, BDSM and D/S relationships are all about erotic power exchange, not one person having power over another. The submissive gets to set their boundaries, and everything is pre-negotiated. The submissive likes getting slapped (see also: “Painslut”).

D意为D\S

这是一种有关BDSM参与者双方关系的缩写，D指支配方，S指服从方。尽管某些怪人人可以同时扮演两种角色（参见Switch词条），通常情况下你既不需要支配也不需要臣服。从这篇指南中你应该了解到，尽管支配者常常会对服从者打耳光、辱骂、吐痰，但BDSM以及这种支配服从关系均是针对性权力地位的交换，而非真正的奴役。服从者往往会对双方行为设置限制，而可以施行的行为则全部需经过协商同意。服从方喜欢被打耳光。（参见Painslut词条）

• E is for Edgeplay

Edgeplay refers to the risky shit—the more taboo (or baddest bitch, depending on who you’re talking to) end of the spectrum of BDSM activities. Everyone’s definition of edgeplay is a little different, but blood or knife play is a good example. If there’s actually a chance of real physical harm, it’s likely edgeplay. Only get bloody with a partner who knows what they’re doing without a doubt and has been tested for STIs. You don’t have to get maimed to enjoy BDSM.

E意为边缘游戏

是指具有一定精神生理风险的BDSM游戏。不同的人对边缘游戏的定义有一定差别，但大众通常用与血液或者利刃有关的游戏来举例。如果一种玩法涉及到真实的生理伤害，那么就有可能是边缘游戏。当游戏可能见血时，最好选择你足够信任并且通过了性病测试的搭档，毕竟人不至于冒着残疾的风险去享受BDSM。

• F is for Foot Fetish

One of the most common fetishes out there, a foot fetish is an attraction—often a need—for feet. Foot fetishists may enjoy worshiping a foot, kissing it, smelling it, massaging it, getting a footjob, licking it, sucking on toes, or (actually) getting stepped on.

F意为恋足癖

这可以说是人数最多的恋物癖之一，是指那些对脚部无法抗拒，有需求的人。恋足癖通常会对他人脚部进行亲吻、按摩、嗅闻、按摩、足交、舔舐、吮吸脚趾或者被踩。

• G is for Golden Showers

A golden shower is when you lovingly shower your partner with your piss. It’s high time for the BDSM community to reclaim this word from Donald Trump, who, may I remind you, allegedly paid sex workers to pee on a bed that Obama slept in out of spite. This is not the same thing as a golden shower. Kink is for smart people.

G意为黄金浴

黄金浴是指用小便深情地给你的搭档沐浴。当从特朗普嘴里听到这个词的时候，整个BDSM论坛都沸腾了。据说特朗普曾付钱给性工作者，让她在奥巴马睡觉的床上尿尿。当然这不叫黄金浴，只有聪明的人懂得这个词。

• H is for Hard Limits

Hard limits are sexual acts that are off-limits. Everyone has their own, and you have to discuss these boundaries before any BDSM play. Use it in a sentence: “Please do not pee on me; golden showers are one of my hard limits.”

H意为硬性限制

硬性限制是指在性行为中不可突破的禁区。每个人的硬性限制不同，在BDSM前务必对此设置玩法限制，以下是示例句式：“请别在我身上尿尿，黄金浴是我的禁区。”

• I is for Impact Play

Impact play refers to any impact on the body, such as spanking, caning, flogging, slapping, etc.

I意为击打游戏

指任何对于身体部位的击打，例如打屁股、杖击、鞭打、耳光等等等等。

• J is for Japanese Bondage

The most well-known type of Japanese bondage is Shibari, in which one partner ties up the other in beautiful and intricate patterns using rope. It’s a method of restraint, but also an art form.

J意为日式捆绑

‘绳缚艺术’是一种知名的日式捆绑，施加捆绑的一方会将绳子绕成精美而复杂的图案，这既是一种约束方法，也是一种艺术行为。

• K is for Knife Play

Knife play is, well, knife sex. It’s considered a form of edgeplay (our parents told us not to play with knives for a reason.) If you do play with knives, do it with someone who truly respects you and whom you trust. Often knife play doesn’t actually involve drawing blood, but is done more for the psychological thrill, such as gliding a knife along a partner’s body to induce an adrenaline rush. Call me a prude, but I wouldn’t advise it on a first Tinder date.

K意为利刃游戏

利刃游戏是指，嗯，用刀性交。这被认为是一种边缘游戏（毕竟父母可不愿意看到你拿刀玩）。如果要进行此类游戏，务必与那些你足够信任并对你足够尊敬的搭档。通常情况下利刃游戏不会见血，更多的是一种心理上的恐惧刺激，例如拿着刀在搭档的身体上滑动以刺激肾上腺素激增。尽管我很自以为是，但我不建议您在第一次Tinder约会中就采用这种玩法（Tinder是一款交友app）

• L is for Leather

The BDSM community enjoys leather as much as you’d expect. Leather shorts, leather paddles, and leather corsets are popular, although increasingly kinky retailers provide vegan options for their animal-loving geeks.

L意为皮革

BDSM社区比你想象的更喜欢皮革。 皮革短裤，皮革桨和皮革紧身胸衣都很受欢迎，尽管许多古怪的零售商为喜欢动物的极客提供素食主义选择。

• M is for Masochist

A masochist is someone who gets off on receiving sexual pain.

M意为受虐狂

指那些喜欢遭受性虐待产生的痛苦的人

• N is for Needle Play

Also a form of edgeplay (blood!), needle play means using needles on a partner. Hopefully those needles are sterile and surgical grade. Don’t do this with an idiot, please. Most professional dommes have clients who request or are into needle play. It can involve sticking a needle (temporarily) through an erogenous zone such as the nipple or... BACK AWAY NOW IF YOU'RE QUEASY... the shaft of the penis.

N意为针刺玩法

一种边缘游戏（见血警告！），针刺游戏是指在搭档身上使用针头。建议使用无菌的医用级针头，也请不要和一个不了解的白痴玩这种游戏。许多专业人士都有想要玩或者正在玩针刺游戏的客户，这种游戏可能涉及到用针穿过乳头或阴茎等敏感区域。

• O is for Orgasm Denial

You know how sexual anticipation is hot AF? Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. The dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Repeat as necessary.

O意为拒绝高潮

对于那些喜欢抽搐的阴蒂或者勃起到不行的阴茎的人来说，高潮拒绝能让他们的性欲望更上一层楼，可以说几乎每个人都喜欢这种玩法。搭档中的支配方会让服从方接近或者到达性高潮的边缘，然后停下，根据需求周而复始。

• P is for Painslut

A painslut is a dope-ass submissive who knows what they want, and that’s pain, dammit.

P意为

• Q is for Queening

Queening is when a woman, a.k.a. the queen you must worship, sits on your face. It’s just a glam name for face-sitting, often used in D/S play. Sometimes the queen will sit on her submissive’s face for like, hours.

Q意为女王坐

是指一个女性，或者说是你崇拜的女王，坐在你的脸上。这只是骑脸的另一种表达形式，经常被用于支配服从游戏中。某些情况下女王会坐在她的服从者脸上长达几个小时。

• R is for RACK

RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, which are the BDSM community guidelines on how to make sure everyone is aware of the dangers they consent to. Another set of guidelines are the “SSC,” which stresses keeping activities “safe, sane, and consensual.” We kinksters want everyone to feel happy and fulfilled, and only experience pain that they desire—without actual harm.

R意为RACK

指‘共知风险的两愿实践’，作为BDSM社区指南，它能确保每个人都能意识到自己所同意的行为背后的风险。另一套指南则是SSC，即‘安全、理智、知情同意’。我们希望每个人都能感受到快乐和满足，只经历他们所期望的疼痛，而非真实的伤害。

• S is for Switch

A switch is someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role. Get thee a girl who can do both.

S意为切换

是指喜欢同时扮演支配方与服从方的人。

• T is for Topping From The Bottom

Topping from the bottom refers to when a bottom (sub) gets bratty and tries to control the scene even though negotiations state they should submit. For example, a submissive male may start yelping at his domme that she’s not making him smell her feet exactly like he wants. It can be pretty annoying. It can also be part of the scene itself, such as if the submissive is roleplaying as a little girl with her daddy (this is called “age play”).

• U is for Urination

Urinating means peeing (duh) and aside from pissing on a submissive’s face or in their mouth you can do other cool and consensual things with urine, like fill up an enema and inject it up someone’s butt! I am not a medical doctor.

U意为排尿

排尿意为小便，除了在服从方的脸上或嘴里撒尿之外，您还可以用尿液做其他一些凉爽而有益的事情，例如填充灌肠并注入某人的屁股！我可不是医生

• V is for Voyeurism

A voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex, undress, or whatever floats your erection boat. Voyeurs can get a bad name, because we think of peeping Toms, but there are lots of wonderful ways for a voyeur to consensually engage with their kink, such as going to a play (sex) party or kink event. Voyeurs watch the exhibitionists and everyone wins.

V意为偷窥狂

偷窥狂是喜欢看别人性交，脱衣服或者随便让你勃起的场景。 偷窥者没有什么好名声，因为这让人想到了偷窥者汤姆。不过对于偷窥者来说，有很多不错的方式来让人自愿满足他们的性癖，例如参加娱乐性派对或怪癖活动。 偷窥者看着暴露狂，每个人都是赢家。

• W is for Wartenberg Wheel

A Wartenberg Wheel is a nifty little metal pinwheel that you can run over your partner’s nipples or other erogenous zones. It looks scary, but in a fun way, like the Addams Family. It can be used as part of medical play (doctor fetish) or just for the hell of it. Fun fact: It’s a real-life medical device created by neurologist Robert Wartenberg to test nerve reactions, but kinksters figured out it was good for the sex, too.

• Y is for Yes!

BDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. The dominant partner won’t step on their submissive’s head and then shove it into a toilet without a big ole’ “yes, please!”

Y意为同意

BDSM行为全部建立在感情认同上。除非服从方大声示意许可，否则支配方可不会把对方的头踩进马桶里。

• Z is for Zentai

Zentai is a skintight Japanese body suit typically made of spandex and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Dance teams or athletes may wear Zentai, but some people get off on the sensation of having their entire body bound in tight fabric, and wear it for kinky reasons.

Z意为紧身衣

紧身衣是一种用氨纶和尼龙织成，紧贴皮肤的日式服装。它可以覆盖整个身体，包括面部。舞蹈队或运动员可能会穿着紧身衣，但有些人会因为全身都穿紧身面料而感到不适，并出于变态的原因穿着它。

缩写

• SSC：safe, sane and consensual的缩写，出自David Stein，即安全、理智、知情同意，是早起大部分BDSM实践者的哲学观以及安全口号。由于词汇的主观性，此口号逐渐被RACK替代。

• RACK：Risk Aware Consensual Kink的缩写，即“共知风险的两愿实践”，是在现实中进行BDSM行为的认知基础，包括承认BDSM行为具有一定的危险性，并在遵循一定原则的前提下开展BDSM行为。

• GMSMA：Gay Male S/M Activists的缩写，意即男同志S/M行动主义者

• SP：spanking的缩写，即打屁股

• TS：transsexual的缩写，指的是有跨性别人士参与的BDSM行为

• CD：cross-dressing的缩写，即变装调教，诸如女装调教便归于此类

• OTK：over the knee的缩写，指的是M趴在S的膝盖上被SP

• CUM：是come的变体与缩写,意为射精 come在现代英语中已经有了很强的性意味，现实生活中请避免单独使用。比如，想表达“我正在来的路上”，“I'm coming!”会被很多人认为是“我要高潮了”，而“ I'm on the way”才是“我正在来的路上”

• BBC：即Big Black Cock。类似有BWC 照理说也有BAC，但到目前为止我没遇到这种写法

• Top and Bottom：主奴或攻受

• CBT：Cock and Ball Torture，阴茎或睾丸折磨

黑话

• go to down：激烈的性行为
• fetish：恋物癖。比如foot fetish即为恋足癖。
• 15 fingers：3P的隐晦说法
• 4 on the floor：准备好被后入
• 6 if you count the shadow：用来羞辱一个人的阴茎十分短小
• 175er：指代和同性恋相关的人或行为。来源是1872年德国法律的第175条禁止同性恋，该法律后来被废止。
• acorn：龟头的隐语。
• coat hanger：一种铁制工具，用来在内射之后进行清理与避孕，在部分语境下等同为中文黑话里的“深度插入”，即触及子宫口或乙状结肠的插入（该用法不多见。此外深度插入有相当的危险性，实践时要温柔对待，乙状结肠比较脆弱不适合快速的来回抽插，同时过度刺激可能诱发心脏病）。在英语口语中，coat hanger意为“喝醉了酒走路跌跌撞撞”或者“撞到了东西”。
• pull out：在快要射精前将阴茎从阴道里抽出。
• toss a salad：舔肛
• Cleveland steamer：排遗到性伴胸口并像蒸汽压路机一样前后碾动。
• scat：与排遗物相关的行为。

K+数字系列

由于英文canine（adj.狗的）谐音k9，故国际上将k9作为狗奴“puppy slave”的代称。

国内玩家通过中文谐音和象形，为K0-K8也赋予了意义，罗列如下：

• k0：厕奴（0像张大嘴）

• k1：侍奴（1像一个站立服侍的人）

• k2：跪奴（2像跪着的人）

• k3：刑奴（3像一个屁股）

• k4：绳奴（4像被绑着的人）

• k5：猪奴（5像大腹便便的一个胖子）

• k6：性奴（six谐音sex）

• k7：妻奴或夫奴（7谐音妻）

• k8：猫奴（k9向上顺延）

舶来词

• bukkake：来自日语ぶっかけ，指的是一群男性依次将精液射在同一对象的脸上。
• gokkun：来自日语拟声词ごっくん，指的是饮用用容器盛载后的多人的精液。

中文黑话

行为

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人群

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争议词汇

注：某些行为诸如秀色严重违反了BDSM“安全、理智、知情同意”的基本原则，理论上不属于BDSM而应被归类于性虐待（关于这二者的差异请参阅性虐待），在此列出仅作警示。

• 秀色：吃尸体或渴望被吃的情结
• 蓝志：秀色中杀人的一方
• 志蜜：秀色中自愿被杀或被吃的一方

拓展阅读

相关图书

学院派

• 虐恋亚文化
  可以看作一部西方BDSM的研究史与文献综述。
• The Ethical Slut
  严格意义上说不算学院派，但很值得打算实践SM的各种性取向的人士读的一本书，本书致力于探讨性与道德，以及处于BDSM关系中的我们应该具有的三观。
• 福柯的相关著作（在阅读前可以先阅读福柯的生死爱欲以了解背景）
• 弗洛伊德的相关著作

实战派

通识

• Healthcare Without Shame
  BDSM实践者的必读书目，详细讨论了各种行为的健康风险以及预防措施，也有心态建设的相关内容
• 我的身体我的心
  日文原书为身体も心もボクのもの~はじめてのSMガイド~，国内翻译组的译本名为我的身体我的心，共两本，图文并茂，介绍了SM中的各自玩法以及应该具有的心态。优点是写作风格平易近人，缺点是大部分主题的深度不够。
• SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
  顾名思义，本书是一本实战性的入门指南。成书于上世纪90年代，作者Jay Wiseman是一名专业的BDSM内容创作者，在21世纪亦有其他作品问世，但都不如这本全面。本书前半部分详细介绍了BDSM的基本概念（诸如类型划分、安全词等），寻找组织以及伙伴的方法和注意事项；后半部分先是介绍了捆绑、疼痛施加、鞭打、限制、 折磨、羞辱、言语调教和24/7等常见玩法及其注意事项，然后用了大量篇幅介绍如何在BDSM行为中保持安全。总之是一本很好的入门书。
  另外此书只有英文版，但所用词汇和句法基本是四六级水平，即使英语不太好也可以去尝试阅读。
• The New Top Book
  写给主的操作指南
• The New Bottom Book
  写给奴的操作指南。
  以上两本书均可以在Kindle商店里买到电子版。
• Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns : The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
• 五十道阴影的调教性爱指南
  更加全面的BDSM指南，包括野战、感官剥夺等都有讨论
• Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide To Kinky Sex
• Consensual Sadomasochism: How To Talk About It and Do It Safely
• Different Loving
• Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking
• Sensuous Magic

专题

• 绳缚本事
  捆绑指南
• Anal Pleasure and Health: Guide for Men, Women and Couples
  肛门调教指南，适用于各种性别
• A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting
  阴道拳交指南
• Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
  肛门调教指南，适用于女性
• Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
  肛门调教指南，适用于男性

文艺作品

• O的故事

注释与外部链接

• SM Contract：https://www.minegeck.net/lab/sm 一个用来快速记录和比对SM偏好的网站。