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BDSM黑話
BDSM亞文化隨着多年發展，衍生出了數目繁多的術語和黑話，在豐富了文化的同時，也增加了萌新入圈的難度。本頁面專門用來收集BDSM相關的黑話以及術語，尤其是某些不便於單獨創建頁面的詞語，不限次元。
另請注意，如果整個條目都被黑幕覆蓋說明該條目較為重口，不被大多數人接受，可能會引起情緒不安、身體不適甚至精神損害，請自行決定是否刮開。
數字黑話
- 24/7：一種調教方式，甚至是一種生活風格，指全天24小時、每周7天維持主奴狀態
- 24/6：主要在美國使用,意思是一周七天除了去教堂的日子,其餘時間都時刻準備進行性行為
- 2*4：兩位男性對一位女性進行的四種常見性行為（陰道，肛門，口腔，乳房）
- 39：意為舔肛[1]，來自象形。類似的還有「三又零分之零」。對應的英文單詞為anilingus（較正式），rim（口語說法）和lick（所有的舔）
- 4-11-4：指大陰莖。因為美國有說法「the .44 Magnum as the most powerful handgun in the world」，而44=4英寸的周長*11英寸的長度
英文黑話
A-Z
（待翻譯） A is for Aftercare Aftercare is the practice of checking in with one another after a scene (or 「play session,」 a.k.a., the time in which the BDSM happens) to make sure all parties feel nice and chill about what just went down. The dominant partner may bring the submissive ice for any bruises, but it’s important to know that aftercare involves emotional care as well as physical. BDSM releases endorphins, which can lead to both dominants and submissives experiencing a 「drop.」 Aftercare can help prevent that. There’s often cuddling and always conversation; kinksters need love too.
B is for Bondage Bondage is the act of tying one another up. In most cases the dominant partner is restraining the submissive using ropes, handcuffs, Velcro, specialty hooks, clasps, or simply a belt if you’re on a budget.
C is for Cuckold We can’t let the alt-right ruin the term 「cuck」 for us. Traditionally, a cuck is a man who enjoys, often for submissive and erotic humiliation reasons, watching another man have sex with his wife. In a cuckolding scene, the other man invited to have sex with the wife is a 「bull.」 Female cucks are referred to as 「cuck queens,」 but people of all genders can be cucks.
D is for D/S D/S refers to dominance and submission, the crux of a BDSM relationship. While kinky people can be on a spectrum (see: 「Switch」), typically you’re either dominant or submissive. If you take away one fact from this guide, it should be that even though the dominant partner in D/S relationship may be slapping, name-calling, and spitting on the submissive, BDSM and D/S relationships are all about erotic power exchange, not one person having power over another. The submissive gets to set their boundaries, and everything is pre-negotiated. The submissive likes getting slapped (see also: 「Painslut」).
E is for Edgeplay Edgeplay refers to the risky shit—the more taboo (or baddest bitch, depending on who you’re talking to) end of the spectrum of BDSM activities. Everyone’s definition of edgeplay is a little different, but blood or knife play is a good example. If there’s actually a chance of real physical harm, it’s likely edgeplay. Only get bloody with a partner who knows what they’re doing without a doubt and has been tested for STIs. You don’t have to get maimed to enjoy BDSM.
F is for Foot Fetish One of the most common fetishes out there, a foot fetish is an attraction—often a need—for feet. Foot fetishists may enjoy worshiping a foot, kissing it, smelling it, massaging it, getting a footjob, licking it, sucking on toes, or (actually) getting stepped on.
G is for Golden Showers A golden shower is when you lovingly shower your partner with your piss. It’s high time for the BDSM community to reclaim this word from Donald Trump, who, may I remind you, allegedly paid sex workers to pee on a bed that Obama slept in out of spite. This is not the same thing as a golden shower. Kink is for smart people.
H is for Hard Limits Hard limits are sexual acts that are off-limits. Everyone has their own, and you have to discuss these boundaries before any BDSM play. Use it in a sentence: 「Please do not pee on me; golden showers are one of my hard limits.」
I is for Impact Play Impact play refers to any impact on the body, such as spanking, caning, flogging, slapping, etc.
J is for Japanese Bondage The most well-known type of Japanese bondage is Shibari, in which one partner ties up the other in beautiful and intricate patterns using rope. It’s a method of restraint, but also an art form.
K is for Knife Play Knife play is, well, knife sex. It’s considered a form of edgeplay (our parents told us not to play with knives for a reason.) If you do play with knives, do it with someone who truly respects you and whom you trust. Often knife play doesn’t actually involve drawing blood, but is done more for the psychological thrill, such as gliding a knife along a partner’s body to induce an adrenaline rush. Call me a prude, but I wouldn’t advise it on a first Tinder date.
L is for Leather The BDSM community enjoys leather as much as you’d expect. Leather shorts, leather paddles, and leather corsets are popular, although increasingly kinky retailers provide vegan options for their animal-loving geeks.
M is for Masochist A masochist is someone who gets off on receiving sexual pain.
N is for Needle Play Also a form of edgeplay (blood!), needle play means using needles on a partner. Hopefully those needles are sterile and surgical grade. Don’t do this with an idiot, please. Most professional dommes have clients who request or are into needle play. It can involve sticking a needle (temporarily) through an erogenous zone such as the nipple or... BACK AWAY NOW IF YOU'RE QUEASY... the shaft of the penis.
O is for Orgasm Denial You know how sexual anticipation is hot AF? Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. The dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Repeat as necessary.
P is for Painslut A painslut is a dope-ass submissive who knows what they want, and that’s pain, dammit.
Q is for Queening Queening is when a woman, a.k.a. the queen you must worship, sits on your face. It’s just a glam name for face-sitting, often used in D/S play. Sometimes the queen will sit on her submissive’s face for like, hours.
R is for RACK RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, which are the BDSM community guidelines on how to make sure everyone is aware of the dangers they consent to. Another set of guidelines are the 「SSC,」 which stresses keeping activities 「safe, sane, and consensual.」 We kinksters want everyone to feel happy and fulfilled, and only experience pain that they desire—without actual harm.
S is for Switch A switch is someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role. Get thee a girl who can do both.
T is for Topping From The Bottom Topping from the bottom refers to when a bottom (sub) gets bratty and tries to control the scene even though negotiations state they should submit. For example, a submissive male may start yelping at his domme that she’s not making him smell her feet exactly like he wants. It can be pretty annoying. It can also be part of the scene itself, such as if the submissive is roleplaying as a little girl with her daddy (this is called 「age play」).
U is for Urination Urinating means peeing (duh) and aside from pissing on a submissive’s face or in their mouth you can do other cool and consensual things with urine, like fill up an enema and inject it up someone’s butt! I am not a medical doctor.
V is for Voyeurism A voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex, undress, or whatever floats your erection boat. Voyeurs can get a bad name, because we think of peeping Toms, but there are lots of wonderful ways for a voyeur to consensually engage with their kink, such as going to a play (sex) party or kink event. Voyeurs watch the exhibitionists and everyone wins.
W is for Wartenberg Wheel A Wartenberg Wheel is a nifty little metal pinwheel that you can run over your partner’s nipples or other erogenous zones. It looks scary, but in a fun way, like the Addams Family. It can be used as part of medical play (doctor fetish) or just for the hell of it. Fun fact: It’s a real-life medical device created by neurologist Robert Wartenberg to test nerve reactions, but kinksters figured out it was good for the sex, too.
Y is for Yes! BDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. The dominant partner won’t step on their submissive’s head and then shove it into a toilet without a big ole’ 「yes, please!」
Z is for Zentai Zentai is a skintight Japanese body suit typically made of spandex and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Dance teams or athletes may wear Zentai, but some people get off on the sensation of having their entire body bound in tight fabric, and wear it for kinky reasons.
縮寫
- SSC：safe, sane and consensual的縮寫，出自David Stein，即安全、理智、知情同意，是早起大部分BDSM實踐者的哲學觀以及安全口號。由於詞彙的主觀性，此口號逐漸被RACK替代。
- RACK：Risk Aware Consensual Kink的縮寫，即「共知風險的兩願實踐」，是在現實中進行BDSM行為的認知基礎，包括承認BDSM行為具有一定的危險性，並在遵循一定原則的前提下開展BDSM行為。
- GMSMA：Gay Male S/M Activists的縮寫，意即男同志S/M行動主義者
- SP：spanking的縮寫，即打屁股
- TS：transsexual的縮寫，指的是有跨性別人士參與的BDSM行為
- CD：cross-dressing的縮寫，即變裝調教，諸如女裝調教便歸於此類
- OTK：over the knee的縮寫，指的是M趴在S的膝蓋上被SP
- CUM：是come的變體與縮寫,意為射精 come在現代英語中已經有了很強的性意味，現實生活中請避免單獨使用。比如，想表達「我正在來的路上」，「I'm coming!」會被很多人認為是「我要高潮了」，而「 I'm on the way」才是「我正在來的路上」
- BBC：即Big Black Cock。類似有BWC 照理說也有BAC，但到目前為止我沒遇到這種寫法
- Top and Bottom：主奴或攻受
- CBT：Cock and Ball Torture，陰莖或睾丸折磨
黑話
- go to down：激烈的性行為
- fetish：戀物癖。比如foot fetish即為戀足癖。
- 15 fingers：3P的隱晦說法
- 4 on the floor：準備好被後入
- 6 if you count the shadow：用來羞辱一個人的陰莖十分短小
- 175er：指代和同性戀相關的人或行為。來源是1872年德國法律的第175條禁止同性戀，該法律後來被廢止。
- acorn：龜頭的隱語。
- coat hanger：一種鐵製工具，用來在內射之後進行清理與避孕，在部分語境下等同為中文黑話里的「深度插入」，即觸及子宮口或乙狀結腸的插入（該用法不多見。此外深度插入有相當的危險性，實踐時要溫柔對待，乙狀結腸比較脆弱不適合快速的來回抽插，同時過度刺激可能誘發心臟病）。在英語口語中，coat hanger意為「喝醉了酒走路跌跌撞撞」或者「撞到了東西」。
- pull out：在快要射精前將陰莖從陰道里抽出[2]。
- toss a salad：舔肛
- Cleveland steamer：排遺到性伴胸口並像蒸汽壓路機一樣前後碾動。
- scat：與排遺物相關的行為。
K+數字系列
由於英文canine（adj.狗的）諧音k9，故國際上將k9作為狗奴「puppy slave」的代稱。
國內玩家通過中文諧音和象形，為K0-K8也賦予了意義[3]，羅列如下：
- k0：廁奴（0像張大嘴）
- k1：侍奴（1像一個站立服侍的人）
- k2：跪奴（2像跪着的人）
- k3：刑奴（3像一個屁股）
- k4：繩奴（4像被綁着的人）
- k5：豬奴（5像大腹便便的一個胖子）
- k6：性奴（six諧音sex）
- k7：妻奴或夫奴（7諧音妻）
- k8：貓奴（k9向上順延）
舶來詞
- bukkake：來自日語ぶっかけ，指的是一群男性依次將精液射在同一對象的臉上。
- gokkun：來自日語擬聲詞ごっくん，指的是飲用用容器盛載後的多人的精液。
中文黑話
行為
這條留言來自2020/3/8，沒說什麼時候填坑，要不各位自己動手，豐衣足食！
人群
這條留言來自2020/3/8，沒說什麼時候填坑，要不各位自己動手，豐衣足食！
爭議詞彙
註：某些行為諸如秀色嚴重違反了BDSM「安全、理智、知情同意」的基本原則，理論上不屬於BDSM而應被歸類於性虐待（關於這二者的差異請參閱性虐待），在此列出僅作警示。
拓展閱讀
相關圖書
學院派
- 虐戀亞文化
可以看作一部西方BDSM的研究史與文獻綜述。 - The Ethical Slut
嚴格意義上說不算學院派，但很值得打算實踐SM的各種性取向的人士讀的一本書，本書致力於探討性與道德，以及處於BDSM關係中的我們應該具有的三觀。 - 福柯的相關著作（在閱讀前可以先閱讀福柯的生死愛欲以了解背景）
- 弗洛伊德的相關著作
實戰派
通識
- Healthcare Without Shame
BDSM實踐者的必讀書目，詳細討論了各種行為的健康風險以及預防措施，也有心態建設的相關內容 - 我的身體我的心
日文原書為身体も心もボクのもの~はじめてのSMガイド~，國內翻譯組的譯本名為我的身體我的心，共兩本，圖文並茂，介紹了SM中的各自玩法以及應該具有的心態。優點是寫作風格平易近人，缺點是大部分主題的深度不夠。 - SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
顧名思義，本書是一本實戰性的入門指南。成書於上世紀90年代，作者Jay Wiseman是一名專業的BDSM內容創作者，在21世紀亦有其他作品問世，但都不如這本全面。本書前半部分詳細介紹了BDSM的基本概念（諸如類型劃分、安全詞等），尋找組織以及夥伴的方法和注意事項；後半部分先是介紹了捆綁、疼痛施加、鞭打、限制、 折磨、羞辱、言語調教和24/7等常見玩法及其注意事項，然後用了大量篇幅介紹如何在BDSM行為中保持安全。總之是一本很好的入門書。
另外此書只有英文版，但所用詞彙和句法基本是四六級水平，即使英語不太好也可以去嘗試閱讀。 - The New Top Book
寫給主的操作指南 - The New Bottom Book
寫給奴的操作指南。
以上兩本書均可以在Kindle商店裡買到電子版。 - Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns : The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
- 五十道陰影的調教性愛指南
更加全面的BDSM指南，包括野戰、感官剝奪等都有討論 - Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide To Kinky Sex
- Consensual Sadomasochism: How To Talk About It and Do It Safely
- Different Loving
- Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking
- Sensuous Magic
專題
- 繩縛本事
捆綁指南 - Anal Pleasure and Health: Guide for Men, Women and Couples
肛門調教指南，適用於各種性別 - A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting
陰道拳交指南 - Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
肛門調教指南，適用於女性 - Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
肛門調教指南，適用於男性
文藝作品
- O的故事
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注釋與外部鏈接
- SM Contract：https://www.minegeck.net/lab/sm 一個用來快速記錄和比對SM偏好的網站。